The following has been part of Bob's bio for awhile now. When creating this website, I asked him whether we could publish it here to describe our philosophy.
"I have seen too many marriages end in divorce. I lived through one myself. So for me, your compatibility
and the depth of your devotion to each other matter more than the amount of money you spend
or the size of wedding you host for your family and friends.
That said, friends and relatives can be a vital source of support and perspective when times are tough. I hope you have some. In my view, a
wedding ceremony is more than a celebration of the love between two people. It
is more than a solemn vow to remain faithful despite sickness or poverty. It is also a humble plea, made to those you
have invited, to help you stay in love, to help you keep talking, and to help
you stay married in the years ahead--even when you don't realize or won't admit
that you need such help. In this way, a wedding ceremony builds not only a
family, but a community.
That sounds awfully preachy, I know. But a ceremony that
emphasizes your membership in a larger community need not be dull and
humorless. Indeed, it can be fun to assure a groom that friends will be there
to restrain his bride's shopping sprees and equally heartwarming for a bride to
know that her new husband will forever be under social pressure to pick up his
dirty socks or change dirty diapers.
In
this mundane way, I prefer not to call upon God to grant you a life of wedded
bliss. Instead, I lightheartedly call upon you and your
loved ones to embody holiness yourselves, to remember what's important
and what isn't, to fight fairly, and to appreciate little things like
sticking out your tongue to settle trivial disputes -- an endearing
practice I learned from Lori." |
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I became a non-denominational minister in 1991 through the Universal Life Church. At the time, I was a massage therapist where I enjoyed an intimate, heart-level connection with my clients. After 22 years, I am no longer an active therapist.
I have held other positions before, during and after my tenure as a massage therapist. Positions of teacher, convention and meeting planner, speech therapist, and that of a program director for a massage program. There has always been some essential-to-the-wellbeing-of-my-soul connection missing.
For the past several years, I have felt truly blessed because I have, once again, found a profession that "feeds my soul" and where I have a heart-level connection with the couples I marry.
The picture I've chosen is from one of the weddings I performed in Santa Cruz. I'm the short blonde one...
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I am a farm-boy at heart, an orchardist with a small experimental orchard of stone fruits like apricots, plums, Pluots, Apriums and prunes.
I am part of the third generation working this land and know first-hand the challenges and rewards of working with and living close to an extended family.
I was inspired to become a wedding officiant by witnessing just how much Lori lights up when performing a wedding. A profession that brings that much joy was enough for me to overcome my fear of public speaking!
The picture I have chosen was taken as I completed the paperwork after the first wedding I performed.
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